Agilizen™ – Using the Power of Agile Self-Leadership + Agile Goals + Personal Agility to Change your Life

MISSION:  Offer learning resources for cultivating Agile Self-Leadership, Agile Goals, and Agile Self-Coaching and Self-Advocacy skills that go beyond just providing tips and offer

“WD-40 for your mind, your goals, and your life.”  

INTENTION:  Help strengthen your personal agility, loosen up any painful stuckness in your life, and tap into your inner fountain of resourcefulness for creatively addressing your personal challenges.

GOAL:  Share strategies and teach skills that empower creative, gifted, ADHD and neurodiverse people to experience the adventure, freedom and self-confidence that comes from practicing


Personal Agility combined with self-leadership, self-coaching and self-advocacy skills unleashes your ability to

  • Liberate yourself from unhelpful emotional and cognitive habits such as chronic overwhelm, frustration, stress, anxiety, depression, procrastination, indecision, clutter, and disorganization.
  • Design an agile lifestyle and creatively organize agile spaces that fit your unique needs, change easily when your needs change, and serve to optimize your overall functioning, wellbeing and quality of life.

I’m synthesizing my 30+ years of experience as a performance improvement consultant, coach, leadership development facilitator, teacher, team leader,and project manager to many of the Fortune 500 to

EVOLVE a revolutionary set of skills and personal development tools that 

EMPOWER creative, gifted, ADHD and neurodiverse people to 

EMBRACE their strengths, differences and natural aptitude for

using self-leadership, agility and design thinking to 

ACCEPT themselves as they are

DESIGN creative, practical solutions to fit their unique needs and lifestyle 

and use life challenges to enrich their personal growth.  

Agile Goals, SMART goals, Self-Leadership, Self-Coaching, Self-AdvocacyHow I serve people is constantly evolving as I discover ever more powerful ways to  help people deal effectively with the complex emotional, career, relationship, and other life challenges that tend to accompany exceptional strengths and talents such as high creativity, intensity, sensitivity, curiosity, addiction to insight and a high need to continuously change and evolve.

I look forward to sharing my work with you and would love to hear any comments or feedback. For now, thank you for exploring this site. Wishing you much peace and success.

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In the meantime, you may also:

  1. Read a selection of my Best Articles by Topic
  2. View AgiliZen eZine Back Issues (The ezine is currently on Hiatus as I work on this site and developing the AgiliZen book and curriculum.)
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Learn More about Agile Self-Leadership

What is Agile Life Design?

Trying to fix yourself to fit your vision of how you “should” be, or how you “should” do things, doesn’t work in the long term.  What really works is learning how to design your life to fit you as you are – AND – to grow with you as you evolve.  I call this Agile Life Design.  

Agile Life Design™ is about seeing your life as a learning laboratory – a kind of design studio where you get to experience life as an adventure in learning about yourself and how you organically learn, evolve, and grow.

For example, a key skill in  Agilizen is learning how lead yourself  to “acquire a taste” for doing what’s good for you.  When you do things in a way that fits you – it naturally feels good to do it.

You can learn to like things that are “good for you” — even if you currently dislike or resist doing them.  It’s a power tool we all have, but most of us don’t have an instructional manual for mastering it. Together, Agile Life Design™ and Agilizen provide that manual.

  • You can teach yourself to LOVE the power of setting limits.
  • You can teach yourself to LOVE saying NO to commitments that you don’t really have the time or energy to follow through on.
  • You can even learn to LOVE letting go of clutter.

We emerge victorious when we feel entitled to:

  • embrace our strengths
  • own our imperfections
  • release shame
  • feel we already are good enough even as we continue to seek to grow.

We win the bigger game of life when we are able to

  • see ourselves in our wholeness
  • fill the holes in our souls with self-compassion
  • cultivate our strengths as we create a new story about who we are.

Although our potential is not actually limitless, our potential is not fixed – it evolves and changes as often as we do.  Mastering the 8 Dances of Life using Agile Life Design skills along with the AgiliZen Self-Leadership mindset, expands your potential to manifest the more satisfying life you having been yearning for and maybe even looking in all the wrong places for.

No matter where you are starting from, it is possible for you to become more confident, more comfortable in your own skin, less overwhelmed, less cluttered and more organized.

You can evolve in ways you can’t even imagine right now. You can heal addictions, change unwanted habits, and cultivate and shape new habits.

AgiliZen is about adding skills and resources to your success toolkit and empowering you to agilize your own unique path to success.  AgiliZen doesn’t give you all the answers, but it does help you ask better questions and become your own leader – capable of designing a life that fits and brings out the best in you.


 Ready to to learn more? 

Before you do anything else, if you resonate with the agile philosophy,  I suggest getting my free AgiliZen and Agile Life Design™ ToolKit here

Working with you has changed my whole life and saved my marriage. My husband says it was the best money we ever spent. My kids are so happy we aren’t fighting all the time now… You are AWESOME! Thanks for giving me and my family a chance at a better life.”

Sandra C.

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Resources for Exploring AgiliZen™  and Agile Life Design™ 

 Blogging for me is like a “lab” where I learn, create, experiment, try out new ideas and share my learning in real time.  The ideas here are not always 100% polished, but since I’m always learning and growing, they are never “done” anyway.  : )  I do my best to communicate clearly, but if you find something confusing or encounter a typo, let me know and I’ll correct it when I can.  To help me focus and manage my own perfectionist tendencies, I purposefully apply the 80/20 rule before publishing.  If I didn’t, I wouldn’t have a website or blog online at all.   Thanks for understanding!

 Below are some of my most popular articles…

Agile Living Reading List  Offers recommendations for books that offer empowerment rather than prescribing how you “should be” or “should do” things. When you are “different,” you are vulnerable to experiencing deep disappointment in yourself when you read self-help books that target neurotypicals and offer trendy conventional wisdom and advice.  Books that teach you how to design your own custom-designed, unconventional, and even counter-intuitive strategies for getting things done will be far more likely to help you get satisfying results.

Philosophical Foundations of my Approach to Coaching

I am an advocate of respect-based contextual psychology based on acceptance of individual needs, and using education and cognitive skills training, along with necessary medical support to help people live more satisfying lives with cognitive and neurological diversity.

 My hope is that AgiliZen will

  • provide resources for people to better understand the ways we are different from each other and promote acceptance, respect and advocacy for our brain-based  differences in personality, learning styles, and cognitive processing
  • teach the skills needed to negotiate and design solutions that meet the needs or people whose needs and values are different, and whose thinking, learning, information processing, decision-making and organizing styles are not easily controlled.
  • make the complex concepts of agile self-leadership easier to learn and apply to our personal lives.
  • challenge our cultural bias which idealizes controllist thinking as a superior way to get things done
  • promote iterative design thinking and agilizing as the new “default” for how we approach complex problem solving
  • encourage full spectrum thinking about attention management challenges – rather than labeling attention management and self-control challenges as personal defects, deficits and illnesses, see them as indicators of biological differences which when cultivated have valuable applications in certain contexts.Even though unusual traits and brain differences may create performance challenges in certain contexts which designed for “average” or neurotypical people, such as traditional teacher centered classrooms and workplaces that require sticking to schedules and routines, these same traits can be powerful strengths and valuable assets in contexts where improvisation and the ability to challenge the way things are, and respond to frequently changing, urgent, non-routine needs are helpful – such as in an emergency room situation, or doing creative project work.

In 2012, I became a member of the Association for Contextual Behavior Science which promotes the compassionate and respect-based application of contextual cognitive and behavioral science to alleviate human suffering and promote human well being. This includes

  • ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) – Shares similar foundation to my approach to compassion, acceptance and respect-based coaching and organic learning.
  • RFT (Relationship Frame Theory) (Simply put: We learn our sense of self and learn to define our likes, dislikes, boundaries, limits and more in relationship to our contexts / environments, the language we speak, the stories we tell, the metaphors we acquire for life, time, risk-taking, trust, organizing, motivation, and more. Because so much of ourselves is learned through unintentional shaping, becoming aware of how this works and mastering the ability to design experience that shape us consciously is our best hope for humanely changing ourselves and our habits.
  • The philosophy of Functional Contextualism
    (Our identities, emotions and behaviors are driven by our philosophical assumptions and metaphors about our contexts.  Because people and behaviors change when their context or environment changes, people usually thrive and heal best when their environment fits their unique needs.)