Welcome to Agile Living and AgiliZen!
MISSION: share quality information and educational learning resources that go far beyond just providing tips that may or may not work for you — resources that serve as
“WD-40 for your mind.”
INTENTION: help you grow your personal agility by rethinking everything that contributes to painful stuckness in your life.
GOAL: share effective strategies and learning resources that empower creative, gifted, ADHD and neurodiverse people like us to experience the adventure, freedom and self-confidence that comes from practicing
- The benefits of cultivating an Agile Heart, Mind and Body.
- Why investing in cultivating Agile Self-Leadership, Agile Goal-Setting, and Agile Self-Advocacy is a smarter choice than struggling to increase your “self-control” ability
- The 8 Habits of Personal Agility and how they empower you to live more fully in your Agile Zone.
- The 10 Mantras of AgiliZen and how they help you make peace with living an unscripted, unpredictable life
- The 8 Dances of Life framework and how to it serves you in taking stock of your life and figuring out where to start in setting goals.
My life’s legacy work is helping creative and neurodiverse people cultivate the agile mindset and self-leadership skills needed to get unstuck and
- heal unhelpful emotional, cognitive and behavioral patterns such as chronic overwhelm, frustration, anxiety, depression, procrastination, indecision, clutter, and disorganization.
- design life and organize spaces that fit your unique needs and optimize your overall wellbeing and quality of life.
I’m synthesizing my 30+ years of experience as a performance improvement consultant, coach, leadership development facilitator, teacher, team leader,and project manager to many of the Fortune 500 to
EVOLVE a revolutionary set of skills and personal development tools that
EMPOWER creative, gifted, ADHD and neurodiverse people to
EMBRACE their strengths, differences and natural aptitude for
using self-leadership, agility and design thinking to
generate creative, practical solutions to meet their needs and
deal with everyday life challenges.
How I serve you is constantly evolving as I discover ever more powerful ways to cultivate human potential and help people live with the complex emotional challenges that often accompany exceptional strengths and talents such as high creativity, intensity, sensitivity, curiosity, addiction to insight and a high need to continuously change and evolve.
The website resources here are continuous streamlined, edited and reorganized so check back often. I looking forward to sharing the next generation of my work with you and would love to hear any comments or feedback you have as you browse. For now, I thank you for exploring this site and wish you much peace and success.
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What is Agile Life Design?
Trying to fix yourself to fit your vision of how you “should” be, or how you “should” do things, doesn’t work in the long term. What really works is learning how to design your life to fit you as you are – AND – to grow with you as you evolve. I call this Agile Life Design.
Agile Life Design™ is about seeing your life as a learning laboratory – a kind of design studio where you get to experience life as an adventure in learning about yourself and how you organically learn, evolve, and grow.
For example, a key skill in Agilizen is learning how lead yourself to “acquire a taste” for doing what’s good for you. When you do things in a way that fits you – it naturally feels good to do it.
You can learn to like things that are “good for you” — even if you currently dislike or resist doing them. It’s a power tool we all have, but most of us don’t have an instructional manual for mastering it. Together, Agile Life Design™ and Agilizen provide that manual.
- You can teach yourself to LOVE the power of setting limits.
- You can teach yourself to LOVE saying NO to commitments that you don’t really have the time or energy to follow through on.
- You can even learn to LOVE letting go of clutter.
We emerge victorious when we feel entitled to:
- embrace our strengths
- own our imperfections
- release shame
- feel we already are good enough even as we continue to seek to grow.
We win the bigger game of life when we are able to
- see ourselves in our wholeness
- fill the holes in our souls with self-compassion
- cultivate our strengths as we create a new story about who we are.
Although our potential is not actually limitless, our potential is not fixed – it evolves and changes as often as we do. Mastering the 8 Dances of Life using Agile Life Design skills along with the AgiliZen Self-Leadership mindset, expands your potential to manifest the more satisfying life you having been yearning for and maybe even looking in all the wrong places for.
No matter where you are starting from, it is possible for you to become more confident, more comfortable in your own skin, less overwhelmed, less cluttered and more organized.
You can evolve in ways you can’t even imagine right now. You can heal addictions, change unwanted habits, and cultivate and shape new habits.
AgiliZen is about adding skills and resources to your success toolkit and empowering you to agilize your own unique path to success. AgiliZen doesn’t give you all the answers, but it does help you ask better questions and become your own leader – capable of designing a life that fits and brings out the best in you.
Ready to to learn more?
Resources for Exploring AgiliZen™ and Agile Life Design™
Blogging for me is like a “lab” where I learn, create, experiment, try out new ideas and share my learning in real time. The ideas here are not always 100% polished, but since I’m always learning and growing, they are never “done” anyway. : ) I do my best to communicate clearly, but if you find something confusing or encounter a typo, let me know and I’ll correct it when I can. To help me focus and manage my own perfectionist tendencies, I purposefully apply the 80/20 rule before publishing. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t have a website or blog online at all. Thanks for understanding!
Below are some of my most popular articles…
- The 8 Habits of Personal and Emotional Agility
- Agilizing Your Mind: Unlearning Clutter Thinking Habits
- 5 Steps to Cultivating the Power of Habit
- Chronic Procrastination: How we Learn to Procrastinate.
- What Causes Chronic Disorganization – How to Heal the Trauma
- Is it Adult ADHD or Creative Personality Type?
- Also See Best of My Articles
Agile Living Reading List Offers recommendations for books that offer empowerment rather than prescribing how you “should be” or “should do” things. When you are “different,” you are vulnerable to experiencing deep disappointment in yourself when you read self-help books that target neurotypicals and offer trendy conventional wisdom and advice. Books that teach you how to design your own custom-designed, unconventional, and even counter-intuitive strategies for getting things done will be far more likely to help you get satisfying results.
Philosophical Foundations of my Approach to Coaching
I am an advocate of respect-based contextual psychology based on acceptance of individual needs, and using education and cognitive skills training, along with necessary medical support to help people live more satisfying lives with cognitive and neurological diversity.
My hope is that AgiliZen will
- provide resources for people to better understand the ways we are different from each other and promote acceptance, respect and advocacy for our brain-based differences in personality, learning styles, and cognitive processing
- teach the skills needed to negotiate and design solutions that meet the needs or people whose needs and values are different, and whose thinking, learning, information processing, decision-making and organizing styles are not easily controlled.
- make the complex concepts of agile self-leadership easier to learn and apply to our personal lives.
- challenge our cultural bias which idealizes controllist thinking as a superior way to get things done
- promote iterative design thinking and agilizing as the new “default” for how we approach complex problem solving
- encourage full spectrum thinking about attention management challenges – rather than labeling attention management and self-control challenges as personal defects, deficits and illnesses, see them as indicators of biological differences which when cultivated have valuable applications in certain contexts.Even though unusual traits and brain differences may create performance challenges in certain contexts which designed for “average” or neurotypical people, such as traditional teacher centered classrooms and workplaces that require sticking to schedules and routines, these same traits can be powerful strengths and valuable assets in contexts where improvisation and the ability to challenge the way things are, and respond to frequently changing, urgent, non-routine needs are helpful – such as in an emergency room situation, or doing creative project work.
In 2012, I became a member of the Association for Contextual Behavior Science which promotes the compassionate and respect-based application of contextual cognitive and behavioral science to alleviate human suffering and promote human well being. This includes
- ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) – Shares similar foundation to my approach to compassion, acceptance and respect-based coaching and organic learning.
- RFT (Relationship Frame Theory) (Simply put: We learn our sense of self and learn to define our likes, dislikes, boundaries, limits and more in relationship to our contexts / environments, the language we speak, the stories we tell, the metaphors we acquire for life, time, risk-taking, trust, organizing, motivation, and more. Because so much of ourselves is learned through unintentional shaping, becoming aware of how this works and mastering the ability to design experience that shape us consciously is our best hope for humanely changing ourselves and our habits.
- The philosophy of Functional Contextualism
(Our identities, emotions and behaviors are driven by our philosophical assumptions and metaphors about our contexts. Because people and behaviors change when their context or environment changes, people usually thrive and heal best when their environment fits their unique needs.)