5 Steps to Cultivating the Power of Habit with Agile Thinking Habits

 

Cultivating the power of habit is the ultimate productivity tool.  Learning how to shape your habits is like learning how to fly a plane — once you know how, you can go just about anywhere you want to go — much faster.   But first, you’ve got to learn how to fly the plane.

The thing about habits is they have different characteristics and ingredients.
 How you cultivate them requires understanding the features of the habit and using strategies and tools appropriate to that habit.  For example, habits range from simple to extremely complex. Some are easier to change than others.

Some habits are composed of many smaller habits and so can’t be changed all at once. Some were learned on purpose, most are learned by accident, without you even being aware you are learning them. Most habits can’t be learned on a time schedule. In fact, putting time pressure on yourself to learn them actually makes them harder to learn.  That old adage that it takes 21 days to establish a habit is actually a myth. Continue reading

ADHD Expo October 2012 Appearance

I’m appearing at the  ADHD EXPO Online 2012 along with 25 other ADHD Experts, Coaches and Doctors!

October 14 – 20, 2012

I’ll be sharing some of my best life design strategies for juggling the “8 Dances of Life” PLUS special bonus gifts at the ADHD Awareness Expo.
[br]The Expo is a great place to find support to understand and treat ADD / ADHD. Whether you or a loved one have ADHD, or think you might, you will get lots of great ideas from 25 of the leading ADHD experts, doctors, therapists, educators and coaches in the world. 
[br]Speakers are appearing by video to share their best tips and strategies.
You will also be able to connect with other attendees 24/7 in the Chat Room.  The Expo Exhibits will feature additional complimentary goodies offered by the guest speakers.
 
HOW TO REGISTER


Sign up at www.adhdexpo.com/

Just a few of the leading experts you’ll see…

  • Sari Solden
  • Nancy Ratey
  • Dr. Charles Parker
  • Melissa Orlov
  • Dr. Roberto Olivardia
  • Dr. Rory Stern 
  • Jennifer Koretsky 
  • Dr. Ari Tuckman
  • Dr. Stephanie Sarkis
  • Terry Matlen
  • David Giwerc 

Look forward to connecting with you there!
I’ll be in the chat room as often as I can be.  Look for me there!

Want to send me a note or comment about my video appearance? Comment Below. 

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View Video by Neurologist Dr. Sam Goldstein on Diagnosing and Treating ADHD, Autism, and Attention Difficulties

      Check out recordings of and clips from some of my past classes on Agile Life Design, ADHD, Organizing, Time Management, and more.

Dr. Sam Goldstein Video on Diagnosing and Treating ADHD, Autism, Attention Difficulties

I’m so grateful to You Tube for making it possible for us to see this eminent and enlightened neurologist speaking at a Psychotherapy conference in Romania!  And for FREE!  The full lecture is available below.  Watch it while you can.  My experience is that many of the best videos on You Tube get removed after a short time.  

A couple of my favorite quotes:

 “Pills do not substitute for Skills”

In my life and with my clients, ADHD meds make it easier to learn skills and to USE the skills we have learned to develop new habits.

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Chronic Procrastination and Resistance: How we Learn to Procrastinate.

 How do we learn to procrastinate?

We are waging a cultural war against procrastination and inner resistance as if they were evil itself. I believe it is time to STOP the War and START negotiating a peace treaty with yourself.  Persistent patterns of procrastination are the outer manifestations or signposts of inner conflict and resistance.  

Procrastination is the result you get when one part of you is trying to get the rest of you to do something using tactics like: ordering, coercing, pressuring, tricking, or even bullying yourself to do it.

Resistance can only exist when there is some kind of pushing, pressure, or force trying to get you to do something you don’t want to do, or aren’t ready or willing to do at this time for some reason.    Continue reading

Agile Life Lessons: Dealing with Setbacks

Agile Life Lesson: Bouncing Back is the Key to Self-Confidence

There will ALWAYS be setbacks. Our greatest accomplishments are in the moments of bouncing back.  Our self-confidence is the trust that no matter how frustrating and horrifying our challenges may be, we can and will bounce back and rise to the occasion with a new design or strategy.  It’s the only thing in life we can count on really.



Agile Life Lesson: Acknowledging Yourself is the Key to Bouncing Back

Every day that you keep trying and making steps, even though they are so microscopic it can feel excruciating, YOU are worth acknowledging.

Those teeny tiny steps are what add up to the bigger accomplishment. Acknowledge yourself and they will keep adding up.

Self-acknowledgement is the difference between stuckness and progress. It’s what puts the gas back in your tank.


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Top 10 Mistakes People Make when Trying to Change Behavior

Great presentation. Fits very nicely with my AgiliZen approach to designing and changing habits. I’m working on my own version of this to add 10 more to this list.  : ) 
 

Notes

This is NOT a recipe for how to end a compulsive or hard to stop habit like eating sugar, interrupting people, etc. Strategizing how to change unwanted habits is much more complex and custom to the individual. 

If you are “neurodiverse” or tend to be impulsive, compulsive or suffer from chronic procrastination, anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc. this information is helpful, but not “everything” you need to know to start a new habit. In particular, learning more about trigger design, self-acknowledgement, and iterative systems design so that you can design your environments to support the changes you want to make is crucial.


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5 Steps to Cultivating the Power of Habit   - The Agile Way : )  

SMART Agile Goal Setting 

The 8 Habits of Agility 

Mythbusting: Are New Habits Established in 21 Days? (from my NEAT & SIMPLE LIVING blog)

Is it worth trying to change your habits? If so, how can you make it easier to change habits? (NEAT & SIMPLE LIVING)

How we learn to Procrastinate

 Agile Life Lessons:  Dealing with Setbacks

The Agile Way: What it takes to live a productive life – Your Way – for highly sensitive, creative, gifted, ADHD, or Neurodiverse

This video summarizes the underlying principles of Agile Life Design.  I made it in September 2011 and at that time I was calling it “quantum” productivity.  Quantum principles are still part of the philosophy underlying the principles and strategies in the Agile Life Design Toolkit, but I felt that Agile was more accurately descriptive of the “way” I approach life design.

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Unschooling and Deschooling – Why we need to care what these words mean.

 When I met Homeschool Therapist,  Michelle Barone, MA MFT, I had never heard of “un” schooling, but boy have I learned a lot since.  I was delighted to speak at her extraordinary Unschooling Summit in May 2012.  The more I learn from her about unschooling the more I see the connections between my work and hers.  

She helps parents take back their rights to guide their children to LOVE learning rather than be taught to be obedient, compliant, and overly focused on achievement and getting A’s.  I help people re-learn how to enjoy the process of organizing their lives, home, work, and time by reclaiming their right to design their entire approach to organizing and decision-making to fit the way they think and function.  Just as we all learn in our own way, we all organize in our own way.   


“Designing Your Life to Fit Your Neurodiversity”
(Brain – Based Differences)
Purchase the recording of the one hour interview from Michelle’s Website for $6.97.

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What is  “Unschooling” and why is it such a big deal?

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Agile Life Design Studio – 2012 Program Description with Free Videos

What is Agile Life Design™?  

Agile Life Design™ is a human‐centered approach to cultivating personal agility and meaning in the age of uncertainty – where being in control of life’s curve balls is simply not an option.

Agile Life Design is a way of life, a process and a toolkit for healing chronic overwhelm, indecision, exhaustion and disorganization and for “Cultivating Personal Agility, Productivity & Well-being” 

Agile Life Design - Tools for Healing Chronic Overwhelm, Clutter, and Disorganization - Cultivating Personal Agility, Design ThinkingAgile Life Design integrates ancient wisdom with modern science, universal principles, essential life skills you don’t learn in school, sustainable processes and customizable strategies into a toolkit for mastering the 8 Dances of Life. Continue reading