Falling in love with saying NO

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In the age of ridiculously abundant information, it’s so easy to develop infomania and feel like you can’t stop researching and learning more about a topic. 

Nurturing and protecting your ability to create is more important and more difficult than ever.  

Falling in love with the power of no helped me learn to focus.  Instead of feeling like I’m giving up, I’ve taught myself to connect my power to say no to a feeling of freedom , liberation and power. I think of saying NO as actually enabling me to say YES.  

My power to say no to something “interesting” is what makes it possible for me to say YES and devote time and energy to what I’m truly passionate about.

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“Stop. I’m not going to take any more input until I’ve made something with what I got.”

- Merlin Mann

 

 

Agile Time Management Strategies – Free Download on Slideshare

I’m learning and experimenting with using SlideShare!  Here’s my first contribution.

What’s covered?

  • 2 ways Agile Time Management strategies differ from conventional time management strategies.
  • Top 5 ways we unintentionally set ourselves up for Time Management Troubles
  • 5 Keystone Time Management Habits 

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Rethinking SMART Goals – Agile Goal Setting vs. Conventional Goals

The SMART Goal Setting acronym has been around a long time.  I first learned it in 1981 in graduate school studying adult learning psychology. It’s time for an update.  The AgiliZen way of thinking about SMART goals fits the more improvisational lifestyle most of us creative, growth-oriented people thrive on.

Defining goals in the original model can feel restrictive and make people feel pressured to achieve them as they are stated.  If you miss a deadline it can make you feel guilty.  How we use goals to drive our behavior can wreak havoc on our emotional lives.

Imagine how different life might be if your  goals supported you in BOTH getting things done AND enjoying life? 

Enjoying life should not be the  “prize you earn” for accomplishment.  Continue reading

Handling Emotional Overwhelm – the AgiliZen Way – ADHD Support Talk Radio

I appeared on ADHD Support Talk Radio, discussing the agile way of dealing with and preventing emotional overwhelm. 

Get the free MP3 download or listen online below.

Handling Emotional Overwhelm the Agile way -ADHD Support - Ariane Benefit, Life Coach NJ, NYC Highlights

  • The role of emotions in cultivating performance and productivity
  • Cultivating emotional resilience and intelligence is a high impact productivity strategy for everyone and particularly for creatives, HSP (Highly Sensitive People), ADHD, Gifted Adults, and other neurodiverse individuals. 
  • How your personal metaphors affect your emotional life and how you handle conflict.
  • Common metaphors that affect what you perceive is normal, acceptable, or disordered.  
  • The car and plane metaphors for different personality and productivity styles. Continue reading

Resisting the War on Resistance. BOOK REVIEW of “The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles”

I don’t usually write about what I disagree with, but I think it’s time for me to express my opposition to cultural metaphors and myths that feed the growing epidemic of stress, anxiety, powerlessness, and feelings of inadequacy that so many people are experiencing today.

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What better place to start resisting than with a best-selling book that has 309 5-star reviews and declares something as untrue as  “Resistance is Evil?” 

If resistance is characterized as evil…no wonder our culture destroys the confidence and self-respect of anyone who dares to be different, express dissenting ideas, or disagree with dominant values.  

Today, I’ve decided to resist openly and honestly. I’m not going to be “nice” or “quiet” just to not make waves.  Our cultural obsession with the idea that self-control and battling one’s inner resistance is the only way to “break through” procrastination or creative blocks must be challenged.   Continue reading

Organize Your Time the AgiliZen Way: Agile Time Management Strategies – VIDEO

Welcome to life in perpetual beta. There’s almost no time to plan. Nothing seems to follow the plan even if you do have one. Conventional time management strategies are inadequate to the challenges of the digital age.

Agile Time Management Strategies ClassAgile Time Management™ offers a whole new organic approach to juggling the 8 Dances of Life™ that works for creatives, ADHD, gifted, neurodiverse and anyone who desires a simpler, more enjoyable and flexible way to organize their lives.

[br] Session Description:  Organizing Your Time – The AgiliZen Way

Join me and discover:

  • The benefits of the Agile way of orchestrating the 8 Dances of Life™
  • Your time management style and how it affects the way you get things done
  • How to design Agile goals that inspire you
  • How to cultivate habits that reduce stress and overwhelm
  • Powerful Mantras to inspire putting Agile into Action
 

 This class is over.  Here’s a Video Clip from the class.

 

Agile Time Management by Ariane Benefit, Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Gifted Adults, Creative Personality

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Thursday, January 17, 2013

7:00 PM Eastern
4:00 PM Pacific

INCLUDES Downloadable MP3 and PDF of slides so if you can’t attend live you can still attend!

REGISTRATION IS CLOSED 

 

 Organize Your Time: Agile Time Management Strategies – Featured in the “Organize Your Life” Webinar Series

If getting organized is one of your new year’s intentions, join me and other experts  including Judith Kohlberg, Ramona Creel, Elizabeth Hagan, Allison Carter!

 Allison organizes this annual event to celebrate Get Organized month with a series of high quality learning experiences to help you focus, plan, and organize your time, space, and information. CEU credits are available for professional organizers. 

 

 

 


ADHD Expo October 2012 Appearance

I’m appearing at the  ADHD EXPO Online 2012 along with 25 other ADHD Experts, Coaches and Doctors!

October 14 – 20, 2012

I’ll be sharing some of my best life design strategies for juggling the “8 Dances of Life” PLUS special bonus gifts at the ADHD Awareness Expo.
[br]The Expo is a great place to find support to understand and treat ADD / ADHD. Whether you or a loved one have ADHD, or think you might, you will get lots of great ideas from 25 of the leading ADHD experts, doctors, therapists, educators and coaches in the world. 
[br]Speakers are appearing by video to share their best tips and strategies.
You will also be able to connect with other attendees 24/7 in the Chat Room.  The Expo Exhibits will feature additional complimentary goodies offered by the guest speakers.
 
HOW TO REGISTER


Sign up at www.adhdexpo.com/

Just a few of the leading experts you’ll see…

  • Sari Solden
  • Nancy Ratey
  • Dr. Charles Parker
  • Melissa Orlov
  • Dr. Roberto Olivardia
  • Dr. Rory Stern 
  • Jennifer Koretsky 
  • Dr. Ari Tuckman
  • Dr. Stephanie Sarkis
  • Terry Matlen
  • David Giwerc 

Look forward to connecting with you there!
I’ll be in the chat room as often as I can be.  Look for me there!

Want to send me a note or comment about my video appearance? Comment Below. 

Want to Learn More Now?

View Video by Neurologist Dr. Sam Goldstein on Diagnosing and Treating ADHD, Autism, and Attention Difficulties

      Check out recordings of and clips from some of my past classes on Agile Life Design, ADHD, Organizing, Time Management, and more.

Chronic Procrastination and Resistance: How we Learn to Procrastinate.

 How do we learn to procrastinate?

We are waging a cultural war against procrastination and inner resistance as if they were evil itself. I believe it is time to STOP the War and START negotiating a peace treaty with yourself.  Persistent patterns of procrastination are the outer manifestations or signposts of inner conflict and resistance.  

Procrastination is the result you get when one part of you is trying to get the rest of you to do something using tactics like: ordering, coercing, pressuring, tricking, or even bullying yourself to do it.

Resistance can only exist when there is some kind of pushing, pressure, or force trying to get you to do something you don’t want to do, or aren’t ready or willing to do at this time for some reason.    Continue reading

Tips for Choosing the Right Office Chair for You

Choosing an office chair can be daunting.  Most people are quick to tell you their favorite chair.  But how do you know if it fit your needs?  On her Facebook Page, ADHD Coach, Krickett Harrison recently asked for help choosing a chair and inspired me to write this article for you.  Hope you find it useful.


Why Should You Care about Your Office Chair?

If you spend a lot of time at your computer, your office chair is the second only to your bed in terms of affecting your physical and emotional health and your overall productivity. Having had a back injury when I was in college, I’ve been through over 15 office chairs in my search for a chair that supported my needs and I’ve learned a few things about choosing office chairs that I’ll share with you here.

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You are NOT your own worst enemy…at least…you don’t have to be.

EVERYTHING we do is with the intention to make our short-term, present emotional lives either, less painful / stressful, more tolerable, or more meaningful / pleasurable in some way.

We are always coping with the imperative of making the NOW bearable as we pursue our longer-term ideals.

How to integrate our short-term intrinsic rewards with our long term goals/desires?

One thing I know for sure – it is NOT by seeing yourself as an enemy.

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