Agile Time Management Strategies – Free Download on Slideshare

I’m learning and experimenting with using SlideShare!  Here’s my first contribution.

What’s covered?

  • 2 ways Agile Time Management strategies differ from conventional time management strategies.
  • Top 5 ways we unintentionally set ourselves up for Time Management Troubles
  • 5 Keystone Time Management Habits 

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Rethinking SMART Goals – SMART Agile Goal Setting vs. Conventional Goals – Take the Taste Test – Which do you prefer?

The SMART Goal Setting acronym has been around a long time.  I first learned it in 1981 when I was in graduate school studying adult learning psychology. As part of the AgiliZen framework, I’m proposing an updated more sustainable way of thinking about SMART goals that fits the more improvisational lifestyle most of us creative, growth-oriented people need.

Achieving goals doesn’t have to feel like pressure, overwhelm and stress.  

Rethinking SMART Goals - SMART Agile Goal Setting vs. Conventional Goals  - Take the Taste Test and see which you Prefer. What would your life be like if you insisted that your goals serve you in BOTH getting things done AND enjoying life every day? 

Enjoying life should not be the  “prize you earn” for accomplishment. Enjoying life in all it’s messy unpredictability is what gives you the drive to wake up every day, make meaning out of your messes, and go for what you want out of life even when progress is slow or on a temporary hiatus.

While deeply thinking about goals through the Agile lens, and thinking about how goals should serve us not intimidate us, I came up with this updated acronym for SMART goals. SMART agile goals are designed to inspire and empower us to agilize our priorities into reality and enjoy life too.   I hope you find it useful to at least consider this alternative way of setting goals. 

S  Small, specific and sustainable

Agile goals fit your lifestyle and are small enough to integrate into your life without overwhelming you or your resources.

M  Meaningful and memorable

Agile goals contribute to an emergent outcome goal such as “Improve my health” in a way that you can act on daily. Agile goals are connected to clear purpose, are brief and simple enough to remember, and are easy to set up reminders for if needed.

A  Aims for the agile zone

Agile goals support optimal functioning in a variety of less than ideal future scenarios. Agile standards are flexible.  The process of acting on agile goals is attractive in both short and long-term  because they allow for creativity, learning, intrigue and inspiration. Instead of trying to make things turn out a certain way, we get to wonder how the solutions in their final form will evolve to ensure the important needs that inspired the goals are met.

R   Relevant to emergent outcome goals and to satisfying multiple needs simultaneously (e.g. sensory, emotional, mental, creative, practical and functional needs)

Agile goals are connected to satisfying needs on multiple levels simultaneously.  They reflect thoughtful consideration and integration of your unique personal and lifestyle needs.  Agile goals resolve conflicts between competing needs such as need for quality nutritional food on a low budget without completely sacrificing one for the other. Agile goals meet needs for both immediate gratification (enjoying your life now) and attaining the emergent outcome rewards in the long-term.

T   Tweakable

Agile goals are open-ended enough to empower you to meet them in a number of ways.  Rather than dictate the solution, they guide you in designing and improvising your solutions. Agile goals allow you to tweak them on the fly, as needed, when resource constraints, such as time, energy and money available fluctuate and STILL WIN.

Tweakable agile goals not only allow, they EXPECT you to easily adapt any part of the process or outcome to meet the current conditions.  The way the goal is stated allows you many possible ways to satisfy the real needs while also continuously improving or modifying the process, tools, timing, ingredients, etc to make the solution more interesting, satisfying and sustainable.    

 


 Take the Taste Test
 
AgiliZen SMART Goals Compared to Conventional Goals


Below is an emergent outcome.  It can only be achieved by integrating small daily habits that add up to this. 


Learn to enjoy the process of cooking highly nutritious whole foods by designing small changes into the way I cook so that cooking feels easy, creative and spontaneous.

SMART agile goals might look like this:

  • I will discover simple, versatile tools to cook with and only keep the ones that meet multiple needs: my sensory needs for color, look and feel, AND my functional needs for are easy to use, clean, store in my small kitchen with limited storage. (e.g. a great multi-purpose cutting knife that fits my hand, feels good when using it, fits my color scheme and makes it kinda fun to cut up vegetables, etc.)
     
  • I will learn about and experiment with one or 2 new flavors or fresh ingredients each month or so I can learn more about whole foods and seasonings that make eating and cooking more of a creative adventure I look forward to than a chore.
     
  • I will design or discover 2 – 3  go to “template” recipes for dinner that include only 3 – 5 healthy ingredients  - are easy to remember, easy to adapt to whatever ingredients I have on hand, and easy to prepare even when I get home tired at night. 
     
  • I will figure out a core set of healthy ingredients to keep stocked in my pantry, fridge and freezer so that I can improvise convenient healthy meals anytime.

Conventional Goals might look like this:

  • I will cook my own meals at least 3 times a week to save money on eating in restaurants and to eat healthier.  
  • I will weigh, measure and write down everything I eat.
  • I will plan my meals for the week and make a detailed shopping list to ensure I have all the ingredients I need to make each meal.



Can you feel the difference between the agile goals and the conventional goals?

Which kind of goals are more likely to captivate your interest and inspire you into action?


If you were born to agilize, chances are the conventional approach SMART goals will not inspire you to easily achieve long-term success. You might make a change for a couple weeks then find yourself inexplicably just stopping.  Not achieving your goal feels bad enough, but it is not a benign fleeting kind of pain.  The dark side of repeatedly using goal setting strategies that don’t fit you is that the stress actively and cumulatively does HARM to your self-image and to your emotional, mental and physical well-being.

The stress of repeatedly feeling like a failure actually harms your overall health and well-being so that is progressively becomes HARDER to achieve the outcome goals you deeply desire.   

Repeated lack of success has many undesirable side effects and consequences, such as making you feel inadequate, defective or like a failure.  It can lead to anxiety, depression, and set you up for chronic feelings of overwhelmchronic disorganization, clutterchronic procrastination and resisting your own goals.  

The agile way of goal setting accepts you as you are.    Rather than relying on self-control, encourages self-understanding and self-leadership to design goals in a way that nurtures your spirit and organically inspires you to achieve beyond what you can even imagine right now.   Using control tactics is not “required” to inspire yourself to do things that are good for you – there are other ways!   

When it comes to meeting human needs, there is always an alternative way to get things done that doesn’t require strong self-control.  The AgiliZen way considers control as an option best reserved for machines and should be used sparingly with human beings.

Outliers who are growth-oriented, creative, non-linear, intuitive thinkers and who love to learn and explore more than the average person does, need goals that are designed to be adaptable, flexible and agile.  As you learn, grow and evolve, your needs, interests, and resources change more frequently than the average person’s.

Agile goals nurture, respect and accommodate the intensity of your drive to learn and grow.  Agile goals are designed to easily change as you learn – without the drama of being made to feel like you failed to achieve or abandoned yet another goal.  

The greatest wisdom and achievements are made possible by the “stepping stones” of  those goals you “tried on” and let go of and the course corrections you made along the way as you learned.  The agile S.M.A.R.T goal setting process works with your natural adaptability and cultivates it into a strength.  

Handling Emotional Overwhelm the AgiliZen Way – ADHD Support Talk Radio

Handling Emotional Overwhelm the Agile way on ADHD Support - Ariane Benefit, Life Coach NJ, NYC I appeared on ADHD Support Talk Radio,  Feb. 7, 2013 discussing the agile way of dealing with and preventing emotional overwhelm.  

Highlights

  • The role of emotions in cultivating performance and productivity
  • Cultivating emotional resilience and intelligence is a high impact productivity strategy for everyone and particularly for creatives, HSP (Highly Sensitive People), ADHD, Gifted Adults, and other neurodiverse individuals. 
  • How your personal metaphors affect your emotional life and how you handle conflict.
  • Common metaphors that affect what you perceive is normal, acceptable, or disordered.  
  • The car and plane metaphors for different personality and productivity styles. 
  • Why some people are natural prioritizers and some are natural agilizers.
  • Why having special talents makes a lot of things in life easier and also makes a lot of things harder. 
  • Comparing self-control and need-responsive as diverse styles – the agile way values both styles
  • Recognizing the biases that affect our ability to accept ourselves, value our differences with each other, and ultimately make it more difficult to cultivate emotional resilience
  • The potential value of conflict (opposites attract)
  • Alternatives to the “Time is Money” metaphor that leads to overwhelm and high stress
  • The concepts of “relative best” and “template automation” as flexible, agile optimization strategies 
  • How we learn to become “control freaks” even though it’s not our innate nature
  • The agile way of using your calendar
  • How we can easily strengthen multiple abilities such as: mindsight, mindfulness, and ability to pay attention and mediate inner conflict using just one or two of the activities you are already doing.  
The AgiliZen 10 Mantras for cultivating self-acceptance, emotional resilience and keystone habits that exponentially enhance both productivity and quality of life.
Learn more about the AgiliZen framework for Cultivating Performance and Productivity holistically here.  


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Resisting the War on Resistance. BOOK REVIEW of “The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles”

I don’t usually write about what I disagree with, but I think it’s time for me to express my opposition to cultural metaphors and myths that feed the growing epidemic of stress, anxiety, powerlessness, and feelings of inadequacy that so many people are experiencing today.

What better place to start resisting than with a best-selling book that has 309 5-star reviews and declares something as untrue as  ”Resistance is Evil?” 

war of-art-steven-pressfield

If resistance is characterized as evil…no wonder our culture destroys the confidence and self-respect of anyone who dares to be different, express dissenting ideas, or disagree with dominant values.  

Today, I’ve decided to resist openly and honestly.  I’m not going to be “nice” or “quiet” just to not make waves.  Our cultural obsession with the idea that self-control and battling one’s inner resistance is the only way to “break through” procrastination or creative blocks must be challenged.  

My intention is not to simply criticize by attacking his ideas I hope to inspire deeper thinking on the claim that “resistance is evil” and encourage people to ask questions of their own before accepting the ideas as truth.  So along with my resistance, I offer an alternative.

I believe resistance is more effective when served constructively.  It’s not enough to point out what isn’t fully accurate. Thoughtful resistance that has any hope of being well-received by the force being resisted needs to offer a creative and sustainable alternative as well.

Here’s my attempt at that.  Hope you find it helpful.

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The content of the book “The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles” makes it abundantly clear that the author did little to actively resist or challenge his own ideas while writing it. From the first page, Steven Pressfield makes one outrageous and inaccurate claim after another.  

Was he trying to shock people?  If shock was the intention, I suppose I could understand it.  But from the tone of the whole book, it seemed to me he really believes what he is saying and truly cannot see an alternative way to look at inner resistance.

So, if he reads this, I hope he takes it in the spirit offered and is willing to consider that a metaphor other than WAR might apply to the inner conflict he and so many others experience when trying to write or create art of any kind. 

QUOTES FROM THE BOOK:

— “Resistance is the most toxic force on the planet. It is the root of more unhappiness than poverty, disease, and erectile dysfunction.” 
 

— “Resistance is evil.” 
 

— “Resistance is the enemy within.”

These quotes are so utterly and completely misguided, I can hardly believe this book got published. Unfortunately they are the premises upon which the entire book is written.

ALTERNATIVE VIEWS OF RESISTANCE

Here are several other ways to look at resistance. And yes, you can quote me.  To my knowledge I have not read or heard anyone else say these exact quotes. 

— Resistance IS NOT inherently evil. Resistance is VALUABLE.  Resistance is our GIFT.  It’s the source of our Free will. Without resistance we would all be obedient little robots. 

— Resistance is a vital component of your ability to think for yourself.   Inner resistance is what enables you to challenge YOUR OWN thoughts and ideas and not believe every thought you think.

— Inner Resistance makes courage possible. Without it, you would not be able to feel fear and act anyway.

— Resistance helps prevent you from automatically believing everything you hear or see. 

— Resistance prevents you from automatically following every order or command you are given. Even the ones you give yourself. 

— Resistance is often trying to PROTECT and defend your rights, not HURT you. 

— Resistance is REQUIRED to develop your ability to think both creatively and critically. 

— Inner Resistance may seem evil, but in fact, is often coming from our inner wisdom trying to get our attention nonverbally to let us know that we are not yet ready to do the thing we are intending to do.  It has the potential to give us useful information if we listen and not immediately jump into war with it. It is often NOT our “enemy within.” 

 

THE POTENTIAL VALUE OF RESISTANCE

When we listen more deeply, resistance (even when it comes to writing or any other creative task we want to perform) can be felt and heard as the voice of our inner wisdom challenging and encouraging us to:

  1. Become less rigid in our idea of what we think we have to do to become a good writer or whatever you are trying to get yourself to do. Creative work is challenging and can be an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and become more flexible and agile in all aspect of our lives.
     
  2. Use our inner creativity to DESIGN ways to inspire ourselves to write and to increase the quality of our ideas.
     
  3. Try listening to our inner wisdom instead of assuming our logical self is always right. The part of our brain that sets goals and tries to “tell” us what to do is not always right. Our inner controlling self is not inherently superior to our emotional and physical selves.

Writing is a process. If Steven Pressfield wrote this book by forcing himself to sit down and start writing at 9 am every day – well, no wonder it is so biased, oversimplistic and promotes strategies that not only may not be helpful, they could be downright oppressive to the creative soul.   

Good writing requires doing much more than sitting down at a computer at 9 am every day. Good writing requires a healthy combination of: 

  • Nurturing your ideas 
    • Thinking and experimenting and trying out your ideas.  Do they hold up when you put them into practice?  
  • Challenging your ideas
    • Reading and listening to other people’s ideas on the same topic. Particularly reading ideas that are contrary to your own. 
       
    • Listening to “resistance” to your ideas. 
       
    • Actively considering the possibility that ideas that are completely opposite of yours might have some seeds of validity that could ENRICH your point of view.

Resistance challenges us to think deeper, and use our reasoning and discerning skills before we accept other people’s ideas and adopt their suggestions. Resistance enables us to filter out ideas that either aren’t true or simply don’t fit us. Without resistance, we become easy targets for any claim that simply “feels right” or “sounds good.”  Willingness to resist and get past our comfort zone empowers us to challenge outdated cultural myths and metaphors no matter how intuitively right they seem.

Most Inner Resistance is worth listening to. If you listen and respond respectfully it often melts and may even evolve into an ally.  It may give you information that can greatly improve your strategies. Resistance is uncomfortable, but war is not usually the most effective response to resistance.  In fact, the most honest feedback and resistance often comes from the people who are closest to us and love us the MOST.  If they didn’t care, why would they bother to risk giving us their honest feedback?  

The same is true of our inner resistance.  If you look and listen deeper, your inner resistance could be your best friend.  It could be the most honest source of feedback you have to challenge you to question your assumptions, redesign your strategies, or rethink your own ideas.  What if you could not only SUCCEED but ALSO enjoy the creative process in all its mysteries and unpredictability?  What if you could nurture it and NOT have to FORCE or BATTLE or CONQUER yourself at every turn?  

What if your resistance holds the keys to creative bliss and you can’t get there because you are too busy fighting it?

The more you fight resistance, the more it goes underground and becomes even stronger.

— Resistance is what fueled the American Revolution. If England had LISTENED and allowed us to have a voice in our own taxation, we might still be part of England. 

— Resistance is how we respond to disrespect and tyranny – even when we are disrespecting ourselves.

— Resistance is how we respond to abuse – and trying to force ourselves to do things can become a form of self-abuse.

Clearly, Steven Pressfield’s military background not only taught him to devalue his inner resistance, it seems to have weakened his ability to see life with any metaphor other than war.  It seems to have robbed him of his ability to embrace the gifts of resistance.

I hope that somehow he finds a way to see inner resistance as a healthy part of developing the miracle we humans have of being able to learn, change, and grow as a result of conflict, tension, and struggle.  Our “opposable mind”  separates us from animals and makes it possible to resist ourselves and change our own behavior rather than simply follow built in “instincts”.  Resistance is a central ingredient to the ability to learn. Our ability to resist what we have learned so that we can UNLEARN untruths is one of the most wondrous aspects of being human.

ALTERNATIVE METAPHORS FOR ART

When you take the time to consider the potential value of resistance and to ask the question, is war REALLY the best or only metaphor for art?  You open your mind to see that the process of creating art does NOT have to be war.  It can be so much more satisfying and enriching than that.

— Art can be a “dance” with life and the “gardening” of high quality ideas. 

— Art can be an adventure in getting to know ourselves and cultivating self-respect, self-confidence, and humility. 

— Art can teach us self-leadership, conflict resolution and inner consensus-building. 

— Art can challenge and inspire us to cultivate inner alignment instead of trying to dominate ourselves.

 

WAR IS THE REAL SELF-DEFEATING STRATEGY

Who is winning when you go to war with yourself?  Who loses?  Both sides ARE YOU!  When you “defeat” one part of yourself…that is the REAL act of self-sabotage. Thinking you having an enemy inside is a recipe for depression, anxiety, frustration, and wasting ridiculous amounts of energy fighting that could have been spent listening and learning.

Steven, if you read this piece of resistance to the ideas in your book, I wonder:  Would you even consider rethinking the war metaphor for art?  or would you actively consider the possibly of another way to experience the process of creation?

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I wonder if the people who love the book would read this or be inspired to consider new possibilities?  If you were like me and felt something was “off” and felt outnumbered by the vast outpouring of people agreeing with and praising the war metaphor, I hope reading this helps you strengthen your own point of view and conviction to think for yourself – even when it seems like an overwhelming majority disagrees with you.  If you feel more empowered to keep listening to yourself,it was worth taking 4 hours out of my life to write this. 

 

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Organize Your Time: Agile Time Management Strategies for Thriving in the Age of Perpetual Beta – VIDEO EXCERPT

 Organize Your Time: Agile Time Management Strategies for Thriving in the Age of Perpetual Beta –  Part of the “Organize Your Life” Webinar Series 

If getting organized is one of your new year’s intentions, join me and other experts  including Judith Kohlberg, Ramona Creel, Elizabeth Hagan, Allison Carter and more!  Allison organizes this annual event to celebrate Get Organized month with a series of high quality learning experiences to help you focus, plan, and organize your time, space, and information. CEU credits are available for professional organizers. 

 This class is over.  Here’s a Video Clip from the class.

 

Agile Time Management by Ariane Benefit, Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Gifted Adults, Creative Personality

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Thursday, January 17, 2013

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INCLUDES Downloadable MP3 and PDF of slides so if you can’t attend live you can still attend!

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Session Description:  Organizing Your Time – The AgiliZen Way
Welcome to life in perpetual beta. There’s almost no time to plan. Nothing seems to follow the plan even if you do have one. Conventional time management strategies are inadequate to the challenges of the digital age.

Agile Time Management™ offers a whole new organic approach to juggling the 8 Dances of Life™ that works for creatives, ADHD, gifted, neurodiverse and anyone who desires a simpler, more enjoyable and flexible way to organize their lives.

Join me and discover:

  • The benefits of the Agile way of orchestrating the 8 Dances of Life™
  • Your time management style and how it affects the way you get things done
  • How to design Agile goals that inspire you
  • How to cultivate habits that reduce stress and overwhelm
  • Powerful Mantras to inspire putting Agile into Action
 

 

 

Inside the Life Designer’s Studio: Top ADHD Coach Shares Strategies for Thriving with ADHD

Behind the Scenes of Success

Ever wanted to peek behind the scenes to see how successful coaches, speakers and consultants really organize their work and manage their time?   That’s the inspiration behind the video interview series “Inside the Life Designer’s Studio” I’m hosting. 

The first featured video has been released on my Ariane Benefits U channel  in honor of ADHD Awareness Month and the upcoming ADHD Expo which is organized by ADHD Coach, Tara McGillicuddy.  Tara also happens to be my first guest on the show!  

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Description

I’m delighted to share the passionate and uplifting conversation I had with Tara McGillicuddy, whose leadership in the field of ADHD coaching has helped millions of people learn about ADHD and find the life design solutions and ADHD treatments they need to flourish.  She is an extraordinarily gifted, caring, and sensitive person and her insights into the journey to cultivating personal agility when you have multiple challenges in life, are truly a master class. You can GREATLY reduce the suffering AND the upheaval of having a gifted, high-speed, creative and / or ADHD mind.  It’s not easy, but Tara’s own life is an testament to what is possible.

Topics

  • How she first realized she was different
  • Learning to self-advocate and deal with difficult and draining people
  • Changing careers and finding the purpose-driven work that fits you 
  • Dealing with being emotionally sensitive
  • Healing social anxiety and self-consciousness
  • Designing the right kind of structure for your personality type
  • Designing iterative and innovative need-responsive approaches to productivity challenges
  • Facilitating yourself to get things done even when you don’t like doing them
  • Designing your environment to purposefully manage your attention, minimize and handle distractions
  • Assessing your needs
  • Learning to pause
  • Time Management strategies for managing overwhelm
  • Paper organizing strategies:  Piles? or Files? or both?
  • Digital organizing strategies
  • Digital or paper calendar?
  • Digital or paper books?
Length:  45 Minutes

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About Tara McGillicuddy 

Tara McGillicuddy is a Senior Certified ADHD Coach with over a decade of experience. She is also a pioneer in Group and Online ADD / ADHD Coaching. Tara provides several online ADD / ADHD resources to the ADD / ADHD community.

Tara is the host of ADHD Support Talk Radio which is the #1 ADHD Podcast on iTunes and top Self-Help Radio show on Blog Talk Radio.  Tara is also the founder and director of ADDClasses.com.



UPCOMING GUESTS

  • Dr. Rory Stern, Family and Child ADHD Coach
  • Lissa Boles, Soul Mapper
  • Shawn Shepheard, Inspirational Speaker
  • Liz Marshall, Author, Marketing Strategist
  • Janet Goldstein, Publishing Strategist, Literary Agent


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ADHD Expo October 2012 Appearance

I’m appearing at the  ADHD EXPO Online 2012 along with 25 other ADHD Experts, Coaches and Doctors!

October 14 – 20, 2012

I’ll be sharing some of my best life design strategies for juggling the “8 Dances of Life” PLUS special bonus gifts at the ADHD Awareness Expo.

The Expo is a great place to find support to understand and treat ADD / ADHD. Whether you or a loved one have ADHD, or think you might, you will get lots of great ideas from 25 of the leading ADHD experts, doctors, therapists, educators and coaches in the world. 

Speakers are appearing by video to share their best tips and strategies.
You will also be able to connect with other attendees 24/7 in the Chat Room.  The Expo Exhibits will feature additional complimentary goodies offered by the guest speakers.
 
HOW TO REGISTER


Sign up at www.adhdexpo.com/

Just a few of the leading experts you’ll see…

  • Sari Solden
  • Nancy Ratey
  • Dr. Charles Parker
  • Melissa Orlov
  • Dr. Roberto Olivardia
  • Dr. Rory Stern 
  • Jennifer Koretsky 
  • Dr. Ari Tuckman
  • Dr. Stephanie Sarkis
  • Terry Matlen
  • David Giwerc 

Look forward to connecting with you there!
I’ll be in the chat room as often as I can be.  Look for me there!

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Tips for Choosing the Right Office Chair for You

Choosing an office chair can be daunting.  Most people are quick to tell you their favorite chair.  But how do you know if it fit your needs?  On her Facebook Page, ADHD Coach, Krickett Harrison recently asked for help choosing a chair and inspired me to write this article for you.  Hope you find it useful.


Why Should You Care about Your Office Chair?

If you spend a lot of time at your computer, your office chair is the second only to your bed in terms of affecting your physical and emotional health and your overall productivity. Having had a back injury when I was in college, I’ve been through over 15 office chairs in my search for a chair that supported my needs and I’ve learned a few things about choosing office chairs that I’ll share with you here.

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The Truth about Chronic Disorganization: What Causes It and How to Heal the Trauma of Lifelong Overwhelm and Frustration

Although I prefer the term “Lifelong Disorganization“, the established industry terms are “chronic disorganization” and “challenging disorganization” this is not intended to imply a medical condition, nor an “incurable” condition.

The intention of the terms are to distinguish an ”ongoing pattern of disorganization” from the ”short term situational disorganization” and clutter that is the normal result of grief, illness, having children, and other life events, transitions, and changes. That said, it is quite common for what started as “stituational disorganization” to evolve into “chronic” or “challenging disorganization”. 

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What is Situationally Disorganized?

When life throws you a curveball, most of us tend to accumulate clutter and become rather disorganized for a while. It’s happens to everyone. We become ill, a family member becomes ill, we are assigned a project at work that requires a lot of travel, or has a ridiculous deadline. Our lives change. We move, get married, have kids, or start a new job. During times of transition, a certain amount of chaos, clutter and disorganization is natural. This is what we call “Situationally Disorganized”: Disorganization that is a normal side effect of a life situation.

What makes “Chronic Disorganization” different?

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Who are Outliers and What is Neurodiversity?

Since discovering my tribe of outliers like me, I will never be able to see myself the same way again. I’m more at peace today than I even knew was possible. The power of understanding that you are not defective, and you are not alone – that there is a group of people where everything you think is freaky about yourself is actually NORMAL can’t really be described in words. 

We are outliers.  We are neurodiverse.  Our brains and nervous systems are wired differently from the average or neurotypical brain. This does not mean we are disordered – it’s more like we pursue order differently. While others seek stability to create order, we need agility  to create order in our lives. We find order in the “dance” of life more so than in the stability or stillness of life.  In other words, routines tend to bore us much more easily than the average person.  When we see something we know could be better, we have a much harder time “looking the other way”  than the average person does. We are interested in exponentially more things than the average person.   

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