Dr. Sam Goldstein Video on Diagnosing and Treating ADHD, Autism, Attention Difficulties

I’m so grateful to You Tube for making it possible for us to see this eminent and enlightened neurologist speaking at a Psychotherapy conference in Romania!  And for FREE!  The full lecture is available below.  Watch it while you can.  My experience is that many of the best videos on You Tube get removed after a short time.  

A couple of my favorite quotes:

 “Pills do not substitute for Skills”

In my life and with my clients, ADHD meds make it easier to learn skills and to USE the skills we have learned to develop new habits.

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Chronic Procrastination and Resistance: How we Learn to Procrastinate.

 How do we learn to procrastinate?

We are waging a cultural war against procrastination and inner resistance as if they were evil itself. I believe it is time to STOP the War and START negotiating a peace treaty with yourself.  Persistent patterns of procrastination are the outer manifestations or signposts of inner conflict and resistance.  

Procrastination is the result you get when one part of you is trying to get the rest of you to do something using tactics like: ordering, coercing, pressuring, tricking, or even bullying yourself to do it.

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The Agile Way: What it takes to live a productive life – Your Way – for highly sensitive, creative, gifted, ADHD, or Neurodiverse

This video summarizes the underlying principles of Agile Life Design.  I made it in September 2011 and at that time I was calling it “quantum” productivity.  Quantum principles are still part of the philosophy underlying the principles and strategies in the Agile Life Design Toolkit, but I felt that Agile was more accurately descriptive of the “way” I approach life design.

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Intensity – What makes intensely creative, emotional and gifted adults like Steve Jobs prone to troubling relationship issues?

I was truly dismayed to see someone as influential and talented as Steven Johnson, author of the brilliant book  Where Good Ideas Come From: The Natural History of Innovation say this about Steve Jobs:

“But for all his obnoxiousness with his colleagues…, Jobs had a rich collaborative streak as well. He was enough of an egomaniac to think of himself as another John Lennon, but he was always looking for McCartneys to go along for the ride with him.”

SOURCE: http://www.stevenberlinjohnson.com/2011/10/thoughts-on-steve-jobs-the-book.html

To me, this is an example of the kind of socially accepted intolerance, bias, and disparaging name-calling that creative, emotionally intense and gifted adults (and children) frequently experience their entire lives. Even though Mr. Johnson is intending to show the “other” side of Steve Jobs complex personality, it doesn’t excuse his perpetuating the portrayal of Steve as an “obnoxious egomaniac.”   Those are some powerfully degrading and hurtful words for such a respected author to be using as though they were mere objective facts and not defamatory or derogatory character slurs. Continue reading

The Truth about Chronic Disorganization: What Causes It and How to Heal the Trauma of Lifelong Overwhelm and Frustration

Although I prefer the term “Lifelong Disorganization“, the established industry terms are “chronic disorganization” and “challenging disorganization” this is not intended to imply a medical condition, nor an “incurable” condition.

The intention of the terms are to distinguish an “ongoing pattern of disorganization” from the “short term situational disorganization” and clutter that is the normal result of grief, illness, having children, and other life events, transitions, and changes. That said, it is quite common for what started as “stituational disorganization” to evolve into “chronic” or “challenging disorganization.”

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What is Situationally Disorganized?

When life throws you a curveball, most of us tend to accumulate clutter and become rather disorganized for a while. It’s happens to everyone. We become ill, a family member becomes ill, we are assigned a project at work that requires a lot of travel, or has a ridiculous deadline. Our lives change. We move, get married, have kids, or start a new job. During times of transition, a certain amount of chaos, clutter and disorganization is natural. This is what we call “Situationally Disorganized”: Disorganization that is a normal side effect of a life situation.

What makes “Chronic Disorganization” different?

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Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnoses of Gifted Children and Adults: ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Asperger’s, Depression, and Other Disorders

Have you had multiple labels given to you by professionals? Do you love someone who has?

One of the well-kept secrets of the mental health community is that more than half and possibly up to 80% or more of the people who receive a diagnosis of ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Asperger’s, PTSD, Depression, or a Learning Disorder are also gifted and multi-talented. Also, if you get any one of these diagnoses you are very like to get multiple diagnoses. They call this co-morbid or co-occuring conditions. They also may call you twice-exceptional.

 By definition, multiple diagnoses is a sign that we don’t really understand the full complexity of the underlying causes of human behavior. Is depression chemical? is it situational? is it reactionary? is it lifestyle? is it culture? is it the individual’s responsibility?

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Who are Agilizers? We are Creatives. Thinkers. Change Agents. Challengers. Outliers. Different. Neurodiverse.

Since discovering my tribe of outliers, agilizers, and creative neurodiverse thinkers, I will never see myself the same way again. I’m more at peace today than I even knew was possible. The power of understanding that you are not defective, and you are not alone – that there is a group of people where everything you think is freaky about yourself is actually NORMAL can’t really be described in words.

We are outliers.  Outliers are people who fall outside the normal ranges of the bell curve. 

We are uncommon. We think differently from the average person. We are neurodiverse – our brains and nervous systems are wired differently from the average or neurotypical brain.

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Agilizing is the new Prioritizing

Did you know that the word “Prioritize” was first used in 1972 as part of presidential election? Seriously, before the 70’s people primarily talked about clarifying what there “priorities” were.  It wasn’t until a wave of trendy time management books were published in the 70’s that the word became popular.

inner conflict-war-with selfPrioritizing means to sequence things in order of importance.  The trouble with over-using the word prioritizing is that people have forgotten that prioritizing is only ONE way to sequence things on your TO DO list.  And often, prioritizing is NOT the best way to organize your To Do List!

All priorities are important otherwise they wouldn’t be priorities.
Trying to prioritize tasks requires deciding which priority is more important than another.

MANY MANY people get stuck in procrastination because they have so much trouble deciding whether one thing is more important than another and RIGHTLY SO!

Many priorities are of equal importance, but the fact is you STILL have to sequence and decide what to do in any given moment.   : )

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Are you different? Uncommonly Smart? Sensitive? You might be one of us: The Neurodiverse Outlier “tribe”

 Over the years it has become very clear to me that being disorganized and feeling overwhelmed is highly correlated with being “above average” in a cluster of personality traits and values. Most of my clients are so smart and talented, but still feel like they are not enough and don’t do enough.

What is up with that?

We know we have potential. Whether we have our own businesses, invent things, create art, write, design graphics or websites, have advanced degrees, or are intensely devoted to providing a social or health service of some kind, we know we have a lot to offer. So why don’t we don’t feel confident?  Why do do feel like even when our work is better and / or accomplishments are more than other people’s, it is still not enough? 

 We are NOT average people – we are not satisfied to just do what we are told, or to do the same job for the rest of our lives without loving what we do.

So who are we?

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